Episode 160 - In Grief, The Support We Need May Not Be The Support We Want

As I was drinking a glass of wine (that turned into the whole bottle) on Mother's Day, I starting thinking about things that she would say to me in the form of unsolicited advice - specifically about people would would call themselves my friends but were only hanging out with me because I had a car.

I didn't want to believe this to be true... after all I was simply becoming more popular as I got older. As it turned out, I got in trouble and lost access to the car for 30 days. With it my NEW so called friends disappeared.

With the advent of social media we tend to block people who say things that we don't want to hear - even in grief.

I have a number of things that I need to take care of but have refused to do so because the emotional scars will be painful - but I have to get them done and the people when care for me have asked repeatedly about them. It's not that they want me to get over my mom's loss. They simply want my to move forward.

While I don't want to hear the advice, it's something that I need to hear and something that I do have to address sooner rather than later.

If you haven't already done so catch my Mother's Day conversation with Joshua Black and Shelby Forsythia here:
https://www.podbean.com/media/share/pb-kzduz-b0ec3a

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Episode 159 - Grief on a Sunday Meant for Moms

People have been reaching out to me asking what I'm doing this year for Mother's Day. 

I will say a prayer for my mom, have a conversation with her... even if it's one sided and I'll do something that we'd normally do together. At least that is the plan.

"Plan" is the operative term. Just because I think that's what I want to do doesn't mean it'll happen that way. If I feel I need to switch it up, then I will. I encourage you to do the same. Make a plan and if it doesn't feel right, then change it and do something you're comfortable with. It could be meeting family or friends, or stayin home alone.

Finally... and I probably should have led with this...

Happy Mother's Day to all the ladies. every day is Mother's Day!

I love you, mom!!

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Episode 111 - Grief is Exhausting

This past weekend, I surprised my mother for Mother's Day on what was supposed to be a very short mainly uneventful weekend.

However, trying to get back to DC turned out to be nightmarish:

  1. I had to fix a lock I inadvertently broke
  2. My debit card got eaten by an ATM machine
  3. My flight got cancelled - TWICE - and delayed TWICE!

After finally getting on a plane 28 hours after I was originally scheduled I was exhausted to say the least... Then I realized life, like grief can sometimes be exhausting! How you deal with it makes all the difference in the world.

Also please continue to send feedback on what you do with the contact information of your decesed loved ones... do you delete them from you phone, email, social media - or do you keep them? Why do you d what you do? I'll share my finding on the May 23 episode of the show. Send me an email at darwyn@dealingwithmygrief.com.

Here is a link to last weeks episode: http://www.dealingwithmygrief.com/podcast/episode-110

Finally, congratulations to fellow podcaster and previous guest Shelby Forsythia, host of the 'Coming Back' podcast. Her podcast is now officially on year old!You can check out her podcast at http://www.shelbyforsythia.com/comingback/

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